Health & Wellbeing

How to help boost your child’s self-esteem:

Self-esteem is your child's passport to successful mental health and social happiness It's the base of a child's well-being. Research shows that at all ages, how you feel about yourself affects how you act.   Parents are their child’s mirror, they look in the mirror and like the person they perceive.

Your child looks to you as a mirror for his own feelings. If you are worried, you can't reflect good feelings. Children translate your unhappiness with yourself to mean unhappiness with them.   Much of a child's self-image comes how he/she thinks others perceive her.  When you give your child positive reflections, he learns to think well of himself.

  • Take time to enjoy playing with your child.  Some parents can’t let go of their grown-up agenda. What may seem like a meaningless activity to you, means a lot to your child. The more interest you show in doing things with your child early on, the more interest your child will have in doing things with you when he's older.
  • Set your child up to succeed. Set high yet achievable expectations for your child. Don't expect your child to excel in sports or music or academics just because you did. The one thing children can excel in is being themselves.  Children must know that parents’ love does not depend on the approval of their performance.
  • Beware of comparisons. Be sure your child believes you value them because of who they are, not how they perform. Plenty of eye contact, touching, and focused attention will help the child understand this.  Every child is good at something. Discover it, encourage it, frame it, and display it.
  • Give children responsibilities. Children need jobs. One of the main ways children develop self-confidence and internalize values is through helping maintain the family living area, inside and out. Giving children household duties helps them feel more valuable, besides channeling their energy into desirable behavior and teaching skills. This will help them learn a sense of responsibility for these things, and therefore a sense of responsibility to society will come naturally.

Things to avoid

  • Criticism
  • Questioning children all the time
  • Praising them not the action
  • Comparing them to other children

This may sound easy but it takes mindful and full attentiveness to what to say and how and when to say it.